Anonymous said: What's your name?
I have a request of all butches, particularly those raised as females: stop being assholes to our femme counterparts! I hear from femme friends, lovers, and strangers, and I read it in essay after essay after essay how butches use their masculine and visibility privilege (yes we have masculine privilege) against the femmes in our lives. It’s deplorable and disgusting. Being Butch and performing masculinity and working for EQUALITY does not mean taking the worst parts of masculinity and using them to oppress femmes or feminine women. To any of my Butch followers or followers of my followers who pull this shit, stop fucking up being a Butch. Recognize that if it weren’t for the femmes who stood up for us, who supported us throughout the difficult decades of our communal history, who nursed our wound and reminded us that while the rest of the world hated us, they thought we were the bees knees. Recognize that our strength exists much because of their strength and their support. Never underestimate the strength or power of a femme. It may be the last thing you ever do. As a Butch, I implore you to recognize all that they do for us every day, whether you date femmes or not, and appreciate them for all they are. Don’t abuse them. By suggesting their sexuality is more fluid because they perform femininity (phenomenally), you are worse than the men who suggest all a Butch needs is to be raped into being straight. You’re worse because you know what it’s like to be told that daily. And it’s sickening that some in my community use that against the women you claim to love. Get it together.